Act I
He was reported for hostility and stonewalling at Induced demand (T-H-L) (relevant Talk page discussion). At first it was treated with the usual dismissive blame the victim attitude we all expect from ANI. Then something changed. It was brought up that BMK refuses to say why he objects to a change and that this is a familiar pattern for BMK. Ivanvector even got as far as saying that he would consider a page block if BMK wasn't such an experienced user (because obviously the expectation to follow rules should be higher for new users than those who've been around for years). Then Swarm (T-C-L) expressed his exasperation at this "perennial problem going back many years" and involving "countless people":
Meanwhile admin RegentsPark (T-C-L) saw no problem with BMK's behavior whatsoever and took the victim blaming route.I can't believe we are still seeing these same old complaints about BMK. This is a perennial problem going back many many years and countless people have tried getting through to him. Status quo stonewalling is an extremely maddening disruptive behavior to have to deal with and I don't know why he continues to do it. Absolutely exhausting. ~Swarm~ {sting} 22:24, 30 November 2023
Then Mackensen (T-C-L) followed up on another user's request to show that there is a pattern. Guess what, there is. Note that at this point we're on day four with no reaction by BMK. How's that for stonewalling?
End Act I
Act II
Admin Drmies (T-C-L) makes a dramatic entrance:
There are no further details. I can only speculate that his grandma died and his dog ate his homework.I happen to know that BMK is going through some things, and some of those things may have contributed to a shorter fuse than was called for. T he above list is--well, if half the list is from June of 2016, then maybe we should not weight those things so heavily. I propose we move on: I know BMK is trying to. If at any point his supposed stonewalling is actually disruptive enough to warrant a block (or if it amounts to edit warring, etc.), then surely one of the administrator in this thread can consider placing a block. Same for the other editor, of course. Drmies (talk) 03:39, 1 December 2023 (UTC)
Still a few people wanted at least minimal "consequences", so a 1RR was proposed.
Then Swarm who was so exasperated above performs a truly impressive routine of mental gymnastics that would no doubt secure him a medal at the Olympics:
End Act IIAgreed. While I can sympathize with BMK on a human level for whatever he’s going through right now, I have never not. And most of us have never not. BMK has always been a very well-liked, sympathetic, highly respected editor, and it is uncontentious that he is overwhelmingly a net positive member of the community, to say the least. It brings me no joy to criticize him, much less say he should be sanctioned. I just can’t buy into the suggestion that this is a minor incident that has blown over and we should all just cut BMK a break and move on. That’s literally what we’ve been doing for years and years. It sucks, but I can’t even take the suggestion seriously anymore. It is just an endless cycle and begging him to self-correct over the years just hasn’t worked. ~Swarm~ {sting} 04:13, 2 December 2023 (UTC)
Act III
Finally, on day six follows the long awaited appearance of the star, BMK himself. Hold your breath, it is an Oscar/Tony/Emmy worthy performance:
The receptive audience at ANI starts gushing their thanks for being allowed to witness this majestic event.As mentioned above, I've had some very serious family events going on which have distracted me since the end of June. My participation here has been minimal, and the effort I've put into my editing has been poor, which has lead up to this situation.
I've had time now to review this thread, and my actions at Induced demand, and I substantively agree that my behavior has been very poor, and not at all up to the standards of what is expected from Wikipedia editors, or, for that matter, which I expect of myself. As suggested by multiple commenters, to "stonewall" without explanation is not acceptable: I should have provided the reasoning behind my objection to the changes that User:HTGS made, and fully participated in the consensus discussion they started. My failure to do so was entirely wrong.
I apologize to the community, and specifically to HTGS, for my rude behavior, and I formally withdraw my objections to the changes they wish to make to the article.
My personal situation is ongoing, but not interminable, and it was my intention not to edit in any major way until it had passed and I was able to edit with a clearer mind and fewer distractions; in fact, I contemplated asking for a self-block for a month or so to help me in carrying that out, but ended up not doing that.
If, as a result of the discussion above, some sort of sanction is deemed necessary by the community, I stand willing to accept it, although I do hope that it won't be required.
I'm not sure that I have much more to say about this incident, so I don't plan to comment further here unless someone has specific issues they wish me to address, in which case I request a ping to make me aware of it. Beyond My Ken (talk) 20:13, 3 December 2023 (UTC)
Except, wasn't there talk of some kind of pattern? Going back, what days, weeks? It's hard to say at this point. After this is very respectfully broached BMK assures his audience:
Wait a second, wasn't his excuse for his behavior that he "had some very serious family events going on"? How does that fit with the pattern? Oh never mind. We've been treated to a performance for the ages!@Paul August: Yes, please do take my comment above as an acknowledgement of not only this particular incident, but also of past incidents as well, which present a picture of poor behavior on my part. I very much hope that moving on from here I will be successful in stopping myself from editing in that manner. Because I edit in some controversial areas (it's ironic that the article in the current case was not a particularly controversial one), meaning I come up against some difficult situations, I may be prone to slip a little at times, in which case I would appreciate a note from someone politely pointing out the error of my ways, which I hope will be sufficient to get me back on track again. Beyond My Ken (talk) 23:23, 5 December 2023 (UTC)
End Act III
Grand Finale
Closed without action and thanks given to BMK by admin 78.26 (T-C-L):
This is how I wish ANI always worked. BMK has taken ownership of actions that were shown to be disruptive and harmful to others' experience here. He has shown grace, empathy, and a commitment to do better. Equally impressive is the grace and empathy with which the apology has been accepted. Bravo. 78.26 (spin me / revolutions) 01:56, 8 December 2023 (UTC)